This week, we began learning about sexual expression. I’m going to be honest, I preferred learning and writing about love way more than this, but that is okay. When thinking about writing for this week, I found it hard to find a topic to write about. I think one thing that could be interesting to talk about is the faking of orgasms.

Now, the reason I decided this is because I wanted learn more about the emotional reasons behind this and maybe why someone never tells their partner about it. Is this something people do during their entirety of their relationship? Are they faking it because there is no love? These questions made me start my digging.

In one article that I found, it gave me a list of reasons as to why a woman may fake an orgasm. The first reason is that single women are less likely to orgasm during sex. This means like having sex with someone you are not in a committed relationship with. This is because women are not comfortable expressing this to someone they are not in a relationship with and men typically can’t tell they are faking it if they are not in a relationship with the woman. The second reason is because it is always thought that sex should have a “happy ending” for both people involved, so they fake it to make it seem that way. Another reason includes that women think that by asking for something specific during sex, it will be a turnoff, so they just do it however and end up faking it in the end. These definitely are not all the reasons provided, but these ones stuck out the most to me and honestly do make a lot of sense. (https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a5048/reasons-we-fake/)

Faking orgasms is very common. I know someone who was in a long-term relationship and she began faking it towards the end of their relationship. I feel as if men get very offended when they find out their partner has been faking it. They think women are doing it on purpose and they take it very personally. I saw online somewhere that faking an orgasm is a “heinous crime” because men are being given this false gratification. I really don’t think it should be taken personally at all. Some people are just scared to offend their partner or maybe they don’t even know what they want during sex. Communication and understanding is definitely key for working through all of this.

So, to men, stop googling article on “how to tell if your girl is faking it,” because that is not something someone wants to be called out on. Instead, be understanding and ask them if they are satisfied and ask if there is anything they would like to try or change. Sex is not supposed to be one sided. Neither is the relationship, so stop making women feel bad. You wouldn’t appreciate being called out on anything either.